Why do some mothers hate their daughters especially when they're the eldest?

My mother doesn't like me. I look like her but I don't think like her, act like her, have most her interests or her life goals. I'm asexual, I have no plans to have kids and likely don't see myself getting married now or in the future.

Since I looked like her I guess she expected that I would be her mini me. When I was younger we were somewhat close, but after I began figuring myself out, especially when it came to my sexuality, that's where she started to change how she treated me. For the record, she was one of those “you'll change your mind” parents, especially when it came to sex, kids and marriage. From a young age I knew that I didn't see myself being a mom, at least not biological. I've considered adoption but who knows where that will go. I also was not interested in having sex and was indifferent to the idea of marriage.

I've stopped interacting with her almost entirely and barely see her anymore. Since February I've gone on multiple day trips with my sisters and this coming January we will be skipping her birthday to get a cabin in the mountains out of state to celebrate my own birthday that same weekend, followed by a cruise in February. I just spent Thanksgiving week with my grandfather and sisters and friends over my mom, our first major holiday without her after she skipped out on multiple birthdays throughout the year within the family. Neither her brother nor her stepfather have spoken to her in several months and I can tell they're grieving in their own way. When my great aunt made an offer to us about her husband's scooter I told my aunt I'd purchase it myself because by that point I did not feel safe letting her sell it to my mother to give to me, let alone keep it at her residence. I live in a more hood county but I'd rather run the risk of keeping my vehicle with me than let her try to hold it over my head as some narcissistic collateral.

Hello,hope y'all doin good, i came to Quora to share my strange story , a very weird one , a story when luck smiled at me ,maybe u will enjoy it , let's begin,have fun... A year ago ,I was a real porn addicted(btw I was 18) ,but never had sex before, I don't have a gf I didn't try to find one even ,always thinking to go to find a sex worker but then I just don't , everyday watching different bodies getting fucked and everyday enjoying. One day, I was watching porn, a big ass lady with big boobs ,just after seeing her the image of my female cousin poped in my mind, (let's introduce her : she's 35 years old , very big ass , nice boobs ,not very big but nice,always wearing tight clothes , she's divorced ) and I thought of me fucking her ,I never had sexual desires for her but now I do days went by and when I met her I was so horny ,I couldn't stay with the family cz my penis was clearly erected , I realized this is my first time I get horny for one of my family ,it not illegal in my country.well to make a long story short( if u want details just text me I will tell u 😊),I decided to give her signs that I want to fuck her,finally I decided to have sex and with my cousin , I thought it is the best beggining for me, i started touching her when I came across her in a narrow place , make her feel my hard cock when we hug , I thought it will hard and I will be ashamed but no , I felt nothing and she said nothing , probably she thought it was by mistake,anyways, I decided then to talk with her about sex, waited for her to be alone in a room and talk with her, I confessed everything about me watching porn and addicted..etc,she said it's normal and u are growing up and u must have sex,well at that time I was like whaaat????? Well I didn't control myself and asked her for sex ( horny like I Ve never been before) she said that she will think Abt it ,2 weeka went by then she called me ,telling that she reserved a room in a hotel and we meet tonight ,we met,and bruuhh, sex is great , I mean, I had to find a pirstitue ,what I was waiting for to have such a feeling ????, I will never forget that night, I started kissing her she was kissing hard ,she misses sex so bad , she sucked my dick and swallowed my semen ,I felt I'm in a dream , then when fucked ,her ass was very big and the anus was open ,didn't struggle to get my hard cock inside it , she was obviously missing sex , she was shouting ,fuck me yh fuck me , I go fast after every word until I cum , we did that 3 times , then we went to her pussy , using condoms I fucked her so hard the moans were higher , everything was perfect ,in the end I asked her to lick her body , licked pussy ,ass, boobs,then she sucked my cock until we sleeped ,all I know that she was dirty ,well before even having sex with her I knew she is an open minded woman , and a woman that looks that she donesnt know anything , but she knows everything, but never expected having sex with her ,well she was horny and that helped...but no one of us regretted that sex ever.. We still have sex from time to time ,and I started having sex with sex workers , joining threesomes..etc If u want pics of her text me.

Today I read romantasy novels and yes, there's sex, especially in the ones by a favorite author of mine who writes well enough that the sex scenes are easy to dismiss. I also read manga, sew, do diamond art and watch anime, hobbies that she herself does not enjoy. I drink both pepsi and coke products and prefer vanilla over chocolate, I don't like her meatloaf and liverwurst makes me feel physically ill. I also look better in red than she does and prefer green, blue, yellow and peach whereas she loves almost exclusively purple and she hates pink whereas I like wearing pink makeup and pink accessories.

When she got into a physical altercation between my sisters and my roommate, I chose them over her. My siblings have had my back for years now, and it was time I repay the favor, especially after we learned that she pushed my roommate's cat out the window during her moving process and shut her out with no regards for what might happen to her. Fortunately a neighbor caught her and returned her to my roommate after a little less than a month, and she is now safe at home with her. She also attempted to cut off her stepfather, who is housing my roommate and one of my sisters. He had to change the locks for the first time in probably decades because my mother has been on a downward spiral since we all made the decision to move out and she had lost multiple lawsuits that she attempted to file against them.